Most men I’ve helped have felt that gut-deep fear of approaching women. They’ve told me what it’s like to walk up to a pretty girl and feel like they’re wearing this big sign that says, “Please like me”.
If you’ve ever felt this way yourself, then that’s a good thing.
It’s not because it’s healthy to think that a certain girl is better than you (i.e. “She’s out of my league”). However, that apprehension is actually constructive for two reasons.
One, it keeps you on your toes and gives you the drive to succeed with women.
Think about how you feel now; don’t you want to do something about it so you’ll STOP feeling that way?
Second, you need to remember that guys who enjoy massive success in dating started at the exact SAME place where you are right now.
How’s that for motivation?
Now, I wanted to let you in on a pretty nifty way to get your brain to overcome those mental barriers that are holding you back. When it comes to self-development in general (read: not just dating), a great deal of struggle occurs in the mind.
And that’s why you need to shed those self-sabotaging thoughts you might have about yourself. It’s for this reason that you need to REPLACE them with empowering beliefs that will push you in the right direction.

Wrap your mind around this:
#1: Replace “I’m no good with women” with “I am attractive to women”
Ok, you might think this is easier said than done, but let’s break this down.
First of all, you need to make this change on the INSIDE so that other people will perceive you in the way that you want. How can they believe that you’re attractive if you don’t believe it yourself?
You can’t wait for some outside factor to transform you into an attractive guy, like money or physical qualities. All those things are icing on the cake – the way you perceive yourself is what women REALLY pay attention to.
There’s one sure-fire way to come across as a high-quality, self-respecting guy. And that’s dropping the behaviors that make you look like you’re kissing butt.
FACT: groveling will undermine a person’s respect for you.
Yet, a lot of men keep doing it anyway and aren’t aware of it. Usually, it’s in the form of the “Oh-you’re-so-beautiful-can-I-take-you-out” vibe that guys put out.
For instance, they love telling women how attractive they are, which is something they’ve already heard a million times. It’s either that, or trying to get women a drink as an excuse to talk to them.
These are supplicating behaviors that amount to following message:
“I’m not attractive enough to talk to you, so I need to get on your good side with compliments and by bribing you.”
An attractive guy wouldn’t dream of giving women that vibe. He’d go in and approach them knowing that he’s their equal – no matter how much he makes or how he looks.
#2: Replace “Women find me boring” with “Women think I’m interesting”
Again, you need to toss those negative assumptions out the window, and there’s a good reason for that. Why drag yourself down by thinking you won’t be the most interesting guy she’s met?
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I think most guys wish they were psychic. If you could read a girl’s thoughts like a book, you’d probably save yourself a heap of trouble.
Think about how easy it would be to plan your next move if you already knew what was going on in her head. You’d know where you stood with her, and you wouldn’t risk saying or doing the wrong thing.
However, having the ability to read women doesn’t have to be a fantasy. There is, in fact, a way to decipher a girl’s words and actions without looking into a crystal ball.
To unlock the “secret code” to her mind, all you need to do is focus on a few key areas:
#1: Observe Her Behavior
One of the basic things I teach men is to shut off that inner monologue that they tend to have when they’re with a girl. Some guys are so busy thinking about the outcome of the situation that they miss out on the important details.
For example, one guy I know used to ask himself stuff like, “Will she be open to a second date?” or “I hope she doesn’t think my outfit is lame…”
I get it that guys new to dating tend to get jittery and think about these things. But when you think about it, it’s just a nervous tic that doesn’t help your inner game at all.

That’s why there’s really no point in paying attention to that noise in your head. To keep out those distracting thoughts, focus on HER instead – it’ll help you figure out her motives much easier.
For instance, consider her actions – is she consistent, or does she tend to flake out from time to time?
A lot of guys I’ve helped often complained that the girl they were dating would be sweet one minute, then cold and aloof the next. If you’ve found yourself in the same situation, you’re probably familiar with this frustrating uncertainty.
Also, ask yourself: is she going out of her way to see you or talk to you?
A client of mine was having trouble with a girl who would be available on a given week, then seemed to fall off the grid on other days. Just when he thought he was making headway, she’d had have all sorts of reasons not to see him.
Don’t waste too much of your energy trying to analyze the situation if you keep going back to square one with a certain girl. You might think that she’s complicated, but her behavior is sending a clear message.
It’s safe to say she’s not interested in anything long-term with you. But don’t take it personally – it just means you haven’t found the best match for you yet, so keep looking.
#2: Observe Her When She’s With You
Another good way to read her is to check out her body – literally.
I don’t mean ogling her, but rather listen to what her gestures and other movements are telling you. There’s a wealth of information behind what she doesn’t say out loud.
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What it is that makes a woman fall in love has been debated, talked about for so long now it’s a bit of a cliche. You’ve probably read more than your share of seduction “how tos.”
But, did you know there’s a science behind it?
Read the article now, and see for yourself.
Stay Alpha,
– Carlos Xuma
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Title: The Science Behind What Makes a Woman Fall in Love With You
For a woman to fall in love with you she first has to find you attractive. That doesn’t necessarily mean you have to be physically attractive, because attraction for women involves a lot more than just looks.
There are much more important qualities women are looking for, and whether you want to make a woman fall in love with you or just sleep with you for a night, you’re going to have to show that you have those qualities.
Most guys think attraction is all about..
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Stumbling on your wife’s infidelity is something you’d least expect while watching a football game, but that’s what happened to this man recently. There he was, enjoying the game, when his wife was apparently texting another guy sweet nothings while he was taking a bathroom break.
It turns out another person behind them saw the whole thing, so he slipped the husband a note after the game ended. So far, no one knows what happened to the couple after that fateful game.
The “Good Samaritan” who took the situation into his own hands has received both praise (mostly from other dudes) and flak for his actions.
And so, that begs the question – if you were in his shoes, would you have made the same call?
As for me, I’m not comfortable with stepping into another guy’s business, whether or not I thought she was in the wrong. I’d feel differently if it was a life or death situation, but that was clearly not the case here.
If it was true that she was cheating, I wouldn’t be cool with that of course. But then I don’t know those people; wouldn’t it be overstepping my boundaries if I butted in?

Prevention Is Key
In any case, cheating is definitely a risk in ALL relationships, no matter the circumstances. Maybe if that football couple had done something earlier on to prevent the alleged cheating, the guy wouldn’t have gotten that note.
Generally speaking, the best way to attack infidelity is on two levels, which is emotional AND sexual.
Let’s face it – those feelings of romance and infatuation will run its course anywhere from a few months to a year. When the time comes that your lives have become somewhat routine and predictable, you need to bring your A-game.
It’s shocking how many guys don’t realize that they tend to get sloppy as time goes by, and it leaves their partners emotionally unsatisfied. Maybe you’re not complimenting her anymore about her new haircut, or seem to care about the struggles she’s having at the office.
The point is, if you’ve become too comfortable and complacent in the relationship, it could drive her to find another guy who’s going to make her feel special like you once did.
Not that I’m assuming anything about the guy with the texting wife; I’m just saying that being emotionally supportive wouldn’t hurt a couple.
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