We’ve all been there before:
Just when you think you’re about to lock down that incredibly cute, too-good-to-be-real girl you’re dating, she suddenly goes cold.
Without warning, she makes up a half-hearted excuse on the fly about having a full schedule the next day, then leaves you high and dry.
So now you’re feeling defeated and confused, not knowing where it all went to hell.
Well, let’s sift through the wreckage, shall we? Sometimes, it helps to retrace your steps to find out exactly why she didn’t fall for your manly charms.
#1: You Suck at Logistics
Women like men who are in control, so guys who have all the bases covered send an important message that can make or break that first impression.
And that message is, “I’m a guy who won’t screw things up when it’s crunch time.”
This all-important social signal will flip that switch in her brain that will make her want to sleep with you – so make sure you have everything planned out before going into execution mode.
Here are some details to watch out for:
Did you put enough effort into your appearance?
Looks are something you’re born with, but you need to have your style and hygiene under control. Iron out these details before game time so you don’t focus your energy on worrying about how you smell or if your shirt looks ok.
Speaking of which, get your buddies to chime in.
They’ll let you know if you need to ditch your outfit or tweak a few details. At the same time, they can give you a heads-up about that cool bar that just opened up – or that place that gave them food poisoning last week.
Find out what she likes beforehand
So you won’t take her somewhere that will clash with her food preferences (although if she’s WAY too picky, that might be a sign of trouble down the road – just saying).
Don’t let the unexpected derail your plans.
Have that proverbial ace up your sleeve in case a wild card comes along. Also, don’t have a hissy fit if something slips through the cracks. Remember, she wants a man in control – not a man-child with a tantrum.
#2: You’re Too Intense
An Alpha Male knows how to pace himself. He doesn’t crank up his seduction game too quickly; building comfort is a gradual process.
In this day and age where it’s easy for women to screen out guys at the first sign of trouble, putting her at ease is one of your top priorities.
Keep these points in mind to set the pace just right:
For first dates, avoid anything she might deem “too heavy”.
Save the fancy dinner for when you know each other better – opt for fun and casual venues, such as a bar or coffee place that’s accessible for you both. Eventually, you can up the ante after she’s “earned” your affections.
Don’t talk to her about depressing crap.
You’re better off having those conversations much further down the road, like when you’re already an exclusive couple.
So for now, don’t kill the fun vibe by rehashing your painful, scarred past.
Resist the urge to fill her in on your last breakup or the time when that girl in your fifth grade class mocked your love poem in front of everyone.
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