When Is The Best Time To Ask For A Second Date?

We teamed up with Bowlmor to bring you a guide on how to be confident and impress on a first date. Whether you are going bowling, for ice cream, or just a drink, you will be at your best.
First thing, you need to ace the first-date. Once that is accomplished, remember the importance of the follow-up to score the second. Don’t be the Romeo that asks for the second date during the first – that is a big no no. Scoring the second date is pretty simple if you stick to the below advice.
Timing is everything
Whatever you do, don’t be needy and get in contact half an hour after you leave each other. As a rule of thumb, get in touch the next day at at least 11am. Keep in mind that when I say get in touch I do not mean text, call, poke, like, and comment on every form of social media imaginable. Choose one form of communication, and stick to it. I dated a guy for a little while who proceeded to continuously plan dates on all different forms of social media, until I was a crazy-lady checking all applications at least ten times a day waiting for him to comment on a restaurant’s Instagram post of their daily dim sum. Once again, a big no no.
What to say
When it comes to composing the said contact, leave the ‘too cool‘ attitude behind you, you wont do yourself any favors. Having said that, it is one thing to say, “I had a great time and would like to see you again”, and quite another to say, “I had an amazing amazing night and would really really like to see you again as soon as you are free”. Be honest and open, but please refrain from going over the top.
Stick to the rules
Most people know the rules. If they want to see you again, they will initiate contact. Keep in mind that they may be waiting to hear from you to initiate said contact (it really is an emotionally-heightened stalemate period), in which you should send a light, honest text saying you had a great time and would like to see them again when they are free. Don’t overthink it.
If you don’t hear anything back
Ideally, the two of you have already had such a good time that you both know you will go out again. I hate to get all He’s Just Not That Into You on you, but if you don’t hear from the person and it has been at least a week, they are just not that into you. Stick to your guns and move on, there are plenty more profiles to swipe!

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The 5 Simple Tricks That Will Make You Feel More Confident

We teamed up with Bowlmor to bring you a guide on how to be confident and impress on a first date. Whether you are going bowling, for ice cream, or just a drink, you will be at your best.
We all know that gut-wrenching, heart-palpitating feeling before a first date, exacerbated by the online reality of a drink with someone you have never met before.
We worry about EVERYTHING, from what we are wearing and where we are going to whether we have too much makeup on or if the other person will recognize us – heaven forbid there is a slight chance of rain! At the end of the day, you arrive and it all goes smoothly – the nerves evaporate within the first five minutes. You look back and think, ‘I really wasn’t that nervous’, and then the next first-date swings around and you are back to the routine, panicked frenzy sculling wine at your desk.
Here, we have compiled five simple tricks that will help make you feel more confident before a first-date, and keep those clammy hands at bay!
Make plans beforehand
If you make plans for a quick half-hour catch up before a date with family or friends, you will distract yourself from the inevitable freak out. Whether you meet a friend for a drink or schedule a phone conversation with a sibling, connect with someone so you don’t have time to stress. Make sure that whatever you do you are already ready for the date, so you can’t stress over the little things. Distraction is key!
Calm yourself down
Too many people sit at their desk staring at answered emails with minor heart palpitations before date night. Get out of the office, listen to some soft music, or go for a walk before the meet and greet. Follow your breathing and try to slow your heart rate down (easier said than done, we know). Consider avoiding coffee as it will make you more anxious, and wine, which can end in one-too-many (we’ve all been there).
Walk tall
When you are arrive, walk with confidence. Keep your shoulders back and your head held high. Notice your posture, and how you carry yourself, will help you feel more positively, improved physicality can improve emotions and reduce nerves. You’ve got this!
Focus on your strengths, not your weaknesses
First impressions are everything. Don’t complain or engage in negative response on a first-date. A prospective-partner does not want to hear about how long your work hours are. Try and focus on positive topics and things that you feel good about, leave the rest at home. At the end of the day, you want to emanate your best self on a first-date, and this can only be done if you keep things in a positive light.
Remember your date is human, too
The person you are about to embark on a date with is most likely just as nervous, and stuck in the too-frequent freak out as well. Relax in this truth. No matter what you are feeling when you are walking through that door, if you treat the other person the way you would want to be treated you will have a successful first-meeting. If all things go astray and your expectations aren’t met for a romantic future, enjoy a wonderful evening with a new friend, or gain new life perspective by learning someone else’s story.

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First Date? Go Bowling.

We teamed up with Bowlmor to bring you a guide on how to be confident and impress on a first date. Whether you are going bowling, for ice cream, or just a drink, you will be at your best.
We are going to go ahead and say it, bowling makes for the perfect first date. As you all know, the first date comes with a LOT of pressure – from whether you are wearing the right thing, where you are going, what you are drinking, what to talk about… it is endless. Curb that inner freak-out and go bowling, where everything is planned for you! Not only do you not have to worry about what you’re wearing – smart casual (easy), but you have an activity breaking up your banter and allowing for some friendly competition.
Haven’t been to a bowling alley in a million years? That’s probably because you are envisioning childhood parties and goofy clown shoes – little do you know that the alley actually stays open after the children have left the building… and gets a whole lot better.
Play
Bowling is much more interactive than sitting in a crowded bar wondering if you are leaning against the wall awkwardly. Not only does it supply you with a back-to-the-future joy in reliving your childhood giddiness, but when combined with alcohol makes for a very fun, flirty night together. Whilst bowling (strikes of course), you can order said alcohol and food that will be delivered to you VIP style by lane-side servers.
Connect
Under the glow-in-the-dark lane lights and nestled in banquette seating, bowling presents an opportunity to relate to each other. The game, featuring a hearty amount of background noise, takes the stress away from constantly thinking of interesting things to say, and the high potential for physical contact (yes, its true – “let me lift that ball for you”), allows for a very likely end-of-date smooch.
Fun
It is entertaining! Step out of the restaurant box, and be the memorable date that does something different. Your potential partner will be impressed by the flirty competition and (most importantly) be comfortable and at ease. Show your true character and get to know theirs with an unforgettable first date, that will most definitely lead to another!
Go on… give it a go!

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5 First-date Activities To Make Sure The Date Is Fun

We teamed up with Bowlmor to bring you a guide on how to be confident and impress on a first date. Whether you are going bowling, for ice cream, or just a drink, you will be at your best.
As the online dating world evolves, and the turnover rate of first-dates becomes more frequent, one must learn to stand out from the rest. The typical dinner and drink, although nice, is too easy! It throws you into the same category as every other blasé charmer, and you want to show a strength of character that won’t be easily forgotten. Here, we uncover five different first-date activities that guarantee you stand out.
Hit the water
Get your Notebook on. Fresh air, open water and a back-to-nature attitude makes you appear endearingly down-to-earth and gives you plenty to chat about. Whether you are cruising in a sailboat or jumping on a ferry, boating will ensure a skyline view, fresh air, and a big old tick from the date-police.
Go Bowling
I mean, it sounds a little cliché. But you have to admit, it is fun. Release your inner 8-year-old and inspire a night of high energy entertainment and giddy childhood joy. Merriment aside, bowling also presents many an opportunity for (somewhat unintentional) physical contact. Get the ball rolling, (pun intended), with very little preparation and let conversation flow.
Shuffleboard the night away
OK, yes. It is a random thing to do. But can you think of an activity better to start conversation? Hell no. A shuffleboarding date combines a prime selection of cocktails and your Nanna’s favorite hobby – a very hipster mix, if you ask a date. Let loose and break the ice, challenging your partner to a game that can be followed up by dinner – the tipsy, competitive combination will work a charm.
Make nice with Mother Nature
Sometimes, the setting speaks louder than your chat. Head to a private garden or blooming park for a beautiful spring date. Think lying on the grass in the sunshine, with cheese and a rosé of choice. A natural winner.
Hop on a bike
The possibilities are endless. Whether you bike individually or go tandem cycling, each peddle poses a perfect first date. The no-frills adventure allows you to get outside, explore new areas and experience the wind in your hair while you gaze into each others eyes lovingly… Done and done.
The best date ever? Combine all of the above! Yes, it is possible and yes, it would be awesome.

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